The Final Goodbye

It's my last night tonight. I had a lesson with Miss Kei. It is also our very last lesson together. When I told her that I was quitting, she immediately sent an e-mail to our office and said that they should stop me from quitting. How sweet of her...

And now I am quitting. She normally doesn't turn on her video. Since it is the last night together, she opened her video when we were saying goodbye. She was teary eyed.

I will miss her-- Miss Kei. I will also miss other students: Mr. Yoh, Miss Lin, Miss Ellen, Miss Eri, Miss Miyo, Mr. Mits, Mr. Ats, Miss Masumi, and many more! I will also miss my other co-teachers. Though actually, I'm only acquainted with some. I will miss this job. A home-based job, a comfortable job but not a ho-hum.

Tomorrow is the real world. I've felt it already but I will feel more of it. Goodbye....

Goodbye...

today is my last day as an HBOET. unfortunately? there were only two close students i have. i told them my resignation. ms.miu said she will miss me. that was very sweet. mr.ats gave his facebook acct
so i added him. i will miss both of them. for the others... i sent them s message in skype. i said goodbye to ms.aika too via her email.

i'm always bad at saying goodbye but i have to.

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A Very Insightful Message

I have a student who is a volunteer worker in their local library.  I asked her about her job and good thing, she was enthusiastic enough to share about it. I told her that I envy her.

A part of me wanted to be a librarian. For the fact that I just wanted to sit around and check all the books. And also to work with books and be with books Mondays to Fridays. I guess I can say that I am more in love with books than with humans. From a bird's eye view,  but in reality, it's not. Being a librarian is actually a science.

So, when I told my student that I envy her work as a librarian, she told me, "You should have taken the librarian license?" And there was an eye opener for me.

Distaste For Others

It still is a typical work load even if I have a different schedule. It's still summer in Japan and students still complain about the heat. I have already stopped asking them about how they cool themselves or what they eat in summer, except for those whom I got rare chances to have lessons with. After summer, there will be autumn, and I guess it will be still typical for me.

One good thing with my routinely schedule is that, I can grasp those special things or special complaints, I should say, from students. Like today, I had a lesson with a this cheerful student. Let's name her K. She has already mentioned before that she has a particular distaste against Chinese and Koreans. With today's lesson, however, she expressed it vividly. She said that she hopes in the future, we (I guess she is referring to Japanese) will have a safe planet that is free from Chinese and Koreans. I asked her why and she said that she has been hearing and reading news about Chinese and Koreans cause a lot of crimes in Japan. I laughed to myself. I know everyone is entitled with their opinions, that's why I just listened to her while she was expressing her feelings towards that particular race. I just can't believe I would hear it from her, who has a kind and sweet voice and a cheerful character. I asked her if there are any Chinese or Koreans in her neighborhood, unfortunately no. I guess, she has a one-sided view of them. But I didn't expressed my reaction to her opinion.

I believe, regardless of the race, ethnicity, and nationality, people are people. People do bad things wherever they are, may it be there home country or abroad. It saddens me that some people have a general view of others. I guess it can't be avoided. It's just after all human nature.

As I've mentioned, I didn't say my reaction to what she said. It's her opinion and I respect it, even though it saddens me that there is a generalization. Teachers are usually encouraged not to raise controversial topics such as religion. I personally avoid topics about the connection of Philippine and Japan historically. But when I do, I try to be objective as much as possible. Thank God, I haven't met students who do not bash the rare instances of such underground topics.

K talked about it for almost all of the lesson time. I just listened to her and bid her good fortune. In my mind, I hoped her to be open about other races and nationalities because it's not about that that define a person.

Good Schedule!

Hi y'all! I feel so happy today because the schedule that I have is very suitable for me. It took me awhile to realize that.

Recently, I am on the job hunt. Having a late afternoon schedule for my online teaching job is good to compromise with the job hunt. I guess I have not talked about my schedule before, right?

Well, when I started, my schedule starts from 1500-2100. This was from a year ago during my first six months. I remember I applied to some job openings and the having interviews with that kind of schedule is not a good combination. In my next six months, I changed my schedule to 1400-2000. It's an earlier schedule because I need to compromise with what happened here at home. My mom had an accident so I need to help more with the house. And with this second schedule, having some interviews still did not go well because it covers a lot of time during the day. The third schedule that I have now is better because I start late, however, I end late. It is from 1630-2200. It's a better schedule than the previous two because it doesn't cover a lot of time during the day and I can do job hunting freely in the morning.

So, now I just realized that my current schedule perfectly well. It compromises well if I have some impromptu interviews and I don't need to block out our replace many time slots.It's good!

Annoyed

I don't know I've written something like this... but here it goes.

A student stressed me out a lot today. I thought we will have a fun lesson together but in the end, it came for the worse. I guess she was not that as enthusiastic as before. Perhaps, I have forgotten how irritable she is when she can't get what the words mean. Or maybe I expected so much of her because I know she knows a lot of words and reads between the lines and can understand even the strangest expressions. As always, in the end, she apologizes about that. But the hurt has already been inflicted.

I got annoyed. I almost lost my cool. I believe I have forgotten about handling those kinds of people.
And maybe, after a year and six months of teaching, I still don't know how to teach. Sigh.

I guess I do.

I am now on the point where I am to lax in my job--where the room of improvement is there but I'm not budging any step to take initiative and do it. I have gotten to lazy, pre-occupied of some thoughts. I was very different when I was just starting out as an HBOET. There was a drive to be better but now, I don't know.

There is something wrong with my outlook and there is something wrong now on how I look on things. I guess I need help on how to do this improvement. Another job perhaps? Or maybe teaching in our company office? I don't know. I'm constricted with my time and my mind wants to stay in this constricted mind.

No Voice

I am not working today because I got sick. I got colds and I lost my voice--the worst thing could happen. I don't mind getting sick as long as I can work. But work without the voice, that's a different story and it is one of the bread and butter of my work as a HBOET. Sigh.

I guess, I shouldn't complain. I can enjoy this extra holiday! :D

Coca-cola Ready For London 2012

Olympics 2012 is near! Here's a Coca-cola bottle  with an Olympic logo. This is shared by my student crush. 

Coca-Cola ready for London 2012.

Exerpts from: 'Fat pride' challenges supersize stereotypes.

I want to share an interesting article that I used in some of the lessons that I had a couple of days. I'll just share the parts where I used for the discussions.

Exerpts from: 'Fat pride' challenges supersize stereotypes
Lifestyle Jul.14, 2012 -07:15AM JST (47)
WELLINGTON —
Cat Pause proudly describes herself as “fat,” can live with euphemisms like “curvy,” “chunky” or “chubby,” but baulks at what she believes are value-laden labels such as “overweight” or “obese”.

The U.S.-born academic is a pioneer in the emerging field of fat studies, organizing New Zealand’s first conference on the topic at Massey University’s Wellington campus on Thursday and Friday.

Fat studies, she explains, is an academic discipline just like history, English or political science, but it examines attitudes towards fat people and challenges the assumption that anyone with a bulging waistline is unhealthy.

At the conference, scholars from as far afield as the United States and Australia discussed papers such as “Fat hatred and the Left in the time of ‘the obesity epidemic’” and “The role of diagnosis in marginalizing corpulence.”

“One of the reasons we’re so fearful and hateful of fat is that we believe we can read people’s bodies,” Pause told AFP.

“So when people look at a fat body like mine, it tells them I’m unhealthy and that this is a diseased body. It tells them I don’t ever exercise and eat nothing but junk.”

Pause said the reality is that some people are just bigger than others and fat studies highlighted the need for society to accept the fact, rather than constantly judging fat people and pushing them to lose weight.

Click here for the whole article.

A Lesson With A Choppy Line

Stude: You have daughter right?
Me: Yes.
Stude: How old is she?
Me: She'll turn two this 25th!
Stude: (wasn't able to hear) What will she turn into?
Me: :DD

August Holidays--OFFICIAL

Just hot off the press! This is our official schedule of the APPROVED HOLIDAYS FOR AUGUST!


AUGUST 19 =  KADAYAWAN [Davao Holiday - Special non-working Holiday]

AUGUST 20 =  EID UL FITR  [ Legal Holiday ]

AUGUST 21 =  Ninoy Aquino Death Anniversary [ Special non-working Holiday]

AUGUST 27 =  National Heroes Day [ Legal Holiday]

I'm so HAPPY that it can't be contained with caps!

August Holidays

The staff posted the approved holidays for the month of August and it is my favorite month! One, it is my birth month. And two, August has a lot of holidays!

APPROVED HOLIDAYS for the month of August 2012
AUGUST 20 =  EID UL FITR  [ Legal Holiday ]
AUGUST 21 =  Ninoy Aquino Death Anniversary [ Special non-working Holiday]
AUGUST 24 =  KADAYAWAN [Davao Holiday - Special non-working Holiday but Tentative might change date]
AUGUST 27 =  National Heroes Day [ Legal Holiday]

Before I don't post the approved holiday schedules here in this blog but now, my notepad information has a lot of information of already. I'm too tired to scroll down or hit find. Sometimes, it doesn't find the right things or it shows a lot of unrelated things. I guess it's better here and you can see our Davao holidays too.

By the way, what's your favorite month?

Nicknames

When I ask students if they have nicknames, they will always say "Nothing" or a short version of their names. I already know that but it's interesting to know their answers. In rare case, though, some will say they have nicknames.

One of my students last night will go to Thailand within this year for business. I told him that Thais like to have nicknames. (I got the information from one of my other students. He was given a nickname by his Thai friends when he was working there.) I also told him that Filipinos like to have nicknames. So, if he would come here his nickname would be No-no, taken from his real name. He smiled at the suggestion and asked, "If Thais will ask me what's the meaning of my name, I cannot explain it." "Just say, no, no," I told him. He laughed.

Generally, students say that nicknames in Japan are only for children. Well, except in some rare cases like those two students mentioned. I remembered that one of my elementary teachers said, the sweetest name one can have is your own first name. I guess somehow, that's the way for Japanese....

Tanabata, Ochugen, And Oseibo.

July 7th is Tanabata Day in Japan. Happy Tanabata Day!

Tanabata is the day when the Cow Herder Star crosses the Milky Way to meet his love, Weaving Princess. This is also a day for children to write their wishes on a small strip of paper and hang it on bamboo trees.

I asked my students about it and they don't really celebrate it anymore 'cause it's for children (that's also because my students usually are adults). One student said, it's also the time when young people can dress in their nice yukata and stroll to some food stall set-up in parallel to the Tanabata Festival. One student also said that in malls there are some Tanabata decorations, like the bamboo, where people can hang their wishes. But basically, Tanabata is for children.


On the other note...

I also learned from another student about a time of gift-giving, which they call Ochugen and Oseibo. Both are terms for the culture of gift-giving in Japan. First comes Ochugen that happens in the early days of July and Oseibo in the early days of December. As per the student, there's no decided date for the gift-giving but it usually happens on the first days of the month. Such celebrations, of course, are signified by advertisements.

The student also mentioned that Ochugen and Oseibo are usually observed by adults who are married. They give presents to the important people in their lives who have helped them or played a great role in their lives. Aside from parents, it could be the relatives, teachers, bosses, or other important persons. Single and young people don't really storm in Ochugen or Oseibo areas, only adults he said.

There's no usual item to give on Ochugen or Oseibo because it depends on the favorite things or the things the receivers want to have. The student said that his wife usually gives an apron for his mother-in-law. This time, he said, he sent out some good beer to his relatives.


An insight...

It's interesting to know that there are festivals and celebrations in Japan that matter age. Tanabata for children, Ochugen and Oseibo for adults. I guess we don't really have that here. Maybe it's celebrated differently.

For example birthdays. For children birthday parties, there are games and a lot of children foods like sweets, ice cream etc. For adult birthday parties, there are drinking parties, alcohol, and maybe for the more older adults, healthy foods, I suppose. But there is always cake. So, in conclusion, even if birthdays are celebrated differently in the Philippines, birthdays are for children and for adults alike.

I guess Japanese celebrations and festivals are like a reminder of one's childhood and old age. The more  you age, the less happiness there is. But I don't know. This is the magic of the Japanese celebrations and festivals.

Once again Happy Tanabata~~~ And Ochugen! !^o^!

Belated Happy Mother's Day and Father's Day!

I know it's too late to post something for Mother's Day or Father's Day but I'm posting anyway because I'm always reminded how patriarchal and masculine the Japanese society can be and I cannot get away the thought of not posting it.

Two Sundays ago, it was the Father's Day and I supposed it was well commemorated in many countries, including Japan. Unfortunately though, it was a day that wasn't really a big deal for many, not so much when they talk about Mother's Day.

When I ask students about the usual presents for mothers on Mother's Day, they have many things to share. From carnations, which is the usual flower for mothers on Mother's Day, to jewelry and things that mothers want to get. And when I ask students about the usual present for fathers on Father's Day, they don't really give a unanimous answer.

One student--a Father--somehow said that the Japanese commemorate the Mother's Day more than the Father's Day because children are always with their mothers at home. The fathers are always out of the house for work and go home late at night. Fathers do not really bond with the children. So Mother's Day is more important and well remembered. He also added that he did not receive any presents from his children or his wife but that's okay. (Our lesson was in the afternoon. I was quite reassuring him that it's not yet too late to get a present. :D )

Japanese society is evidently a patriarchal and masculine society but the matriarchs dominate the homes. Mother's Day in Japan bear witness to how strong women can be, though they are still flourishing in other fields. And if Japanese women are given more chance to thrive, they might do a better job than men. Don't you think so?

Well, anywhere in the world, mothers and fathers alike are important. But like what our pastor at church said, "A home can live without a father but a home cannot live without a mother."

Belated Happy Mother's Day and Father's Day!

Sigh For The Rain

It's June again... time for the torrential rains to start. I suppose, it already has started at the end of May. For online jobs, I believe rain means intermittent connection, slow connection, choppy calls, or no connection at all. I believe I can also say that it applies both to wired and wireless connections. 

I just had a share of mishaps in my schedule. Since we had bad weathers, I experience such and sometimes to a point where my lessons had to be replaced because of a bad connection. 

Internet connection is a very important tool when working online. It is the base of your bread and butter. No internet connection= no work= no pay. It is very different here in the Philippines. As would some people say, internet connection here is like a dial-up connection in first-world countries.  Unless, you would want to pay a hefty price for your sole internet connection. It's impractical for home users to pay such.

We're strongly considering now to change our provider. But we cannot just do that since I don't want to be absent even for a couple of days. Sigh.

If you think working online and home-based doesn't give you any stress, sometimes it can. 

Being Busy-Japanese Style

I sometimes ask some working students (in our online school) if they are busy. They sometimes say, not really. I also ask if they go on overtime. They sometimes say, they do most of the time. "Then you are busy!", I usually exclaim. "But not so busy", they usually contradict. I always end up thinking what is "busy" for Japanese employees.

Till one new student defined what is busy for them. He said that if a Japanese employee is busy, they go home late, riding the last train at night or driving home at an ungodly hour. If they go home around 1900 or anytime before 2300, then they are not busy, even if they go on overtime for 2-3 hours. He also added that some companies do not offer a paid overtime. He thinks this is so, so that the the employee will have to focus on doing the work on itself and not prolong the work because of a paid overtime. That makes sense now.

"Here in the Philippines, overtime is always paid," I told him. He said, "You are lucky but the efficiency and productivity will not be so good." I have to agree with him on that.

I think I can say that I somehow understand what is busy for Japanese employees. From what my student said, I can somehow conclude that Japanese are very hardworking.

It's being hardworking that I always hope for Filipinos and me to conquer.

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A Present

Right now I'm posting through my mobile phone. I have become this lazy... not really. I just have no time I guess.

Anyway... one of my avid students just surprised me with a good news! She's going to send me a Totoro item. She showed it to me. It was a small Totoro towel. How cool is that?!

Actually, around second week of this month, we talked about Ghibli films. She said Ghibli films are good films to show for children because of the themes and lessons they can get from it. She mentioned about Naushika or Nausicca Valley of the Wind as her favorite Ghibli film and wants to show it to her nephew. And I also shared to her that one of my favorite Ghibli film is My Neighbor Totoro. Surprisingly, she likes Totoro too!

With the exchange of delight about our favorite Ghibli films and characters, I came about mentioning that she's lucky to be in Japan where Totoro items can be found and bought. She said nonchalantly that she can buy one for me if I want to. And I went speechless.

I didn't know that she's serious, really. That's why she surprised me with the Totoro towel that she found for me. I was so speechless that I just requested her to type her email so I could give her my address. And since we had a lesson together yesterday, she told me that she will just let me know about how long it would take for the parcel would arrive. She really is serious and she left me speechless.

Putting aside the excitement, I was kind of worried if this breaks ouur school's rules. Hmmm... I believe it hasn't. If the theu found out about this conversation through the recording, then I should just stand and defend myself.

Nonetheless, I'm already excited even it's just a towel. I'm already giving a thought on surprising her with a return present.

I hope the parcel will arrive safe so I can immediately send a return present. I will always be so surprised and very thankful of her. She definitely made my week.

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Bitter Sweet

Hi! Nice to see you again! Maybe you'd think that I have resigned from being an home-based English teacher or HBOET already. Fortunately, not yet. I'm still here! I have just been lazy or there isn't any news to share lately, good or bad. Well not today. :)

On the lighter note

So today is the second day of the second half of the Golden Week in Japan. The first half started last April 28th until April 30th. The second half started yesterday, May 3rd, until this Sunday. The Golden Week is a (sometimes) week long holiday in Japan because it consists of national holidays consecutively and sometimes happen in a week, including Saturday and Sunday. It's a good chance for Japanese to travel, relax, and take lessons on the Golden Week. It's a good chance for teachers too because there are a lot of reservation in these days.


On the darker one

I have lost another avid student again. He is a beginner student but has a great enthusiasm when learning English. He struggles sometimes when talking but he always say the English is a hobby for him and enjoys it. He was always kind of down during his last days in our online school. His last day in our online school was on the 30th (of April) and he said that he would be back after everything is fine.


The Golden Week is ending. A student leaves... and another student comes. Let me tell more about it soon. :) This is it for today.

Happy April Fools...

It feels like ages since I wrote something. It's already April and inspiration and some news just came up to me. Have I been busy? No. I was just lazy and was catching up with finishing my favorite American series. And yes, to reiterate, inspiration just came to me.

I guess I mentioned this before... I changed my schedule to a later one. I thought I could get more reservations than my second changed schedule but I was kind of wrong. I still have the average vacant two spots on most days.

Recently, it got worse for the love of humanity. I get more unreserved slots on most days. Though, my night schedule always is full booked. It makes me sad. Like what I mentioned before, no reservation, no pay.

This is like mediocrity...